'My Love for Her Would Not Change'

'My Love for Her Would Not Change'

Brothers reflect on their love and support for their trans sister.

Angelle Eve Castro with her brothers Sammy (left) and Isa sitting on a bed

From left, siblings Sammy, Angelle, and Isa.

© Jill Meyers


In her powerful essay from the book Authentic Selves: Celebrating Trans and Nonbinary People and Their Families, "The World Is a Better Place When Trans Lives are Uplifted," Angelle Eve Castro reflects on her personal journey.

Also featured in the book is a moving essay by her mother, Angélica Canlas Castro, and the following supportive reflections from her three brothers.


Tyrell (he/him) brother, son

“The world needs more love and less hate. Angelle embodies that love every single day.”

When Angelle came out, I was aware what transgender meant. I have friends who are trans and my favorite tattoo artist, Ruby Doom, is trans.

We live in a world where transphobia and racism are rampant, to say the least, and the fact that my sister overcame all of it and is still here is a testament to how strong Angelle is. On my worst days, she’s always been there for me no matter what. She’s literally my Day One. Angelle’s heart is bottomless, and she’s loved me unconditionally and everyone around her and that love goes both ways.


Isa Castro McCauley (he/him) basketball player, son, brother

“Over time, I have become more and more proud of the woman Angelle has become, and I’m happy she is able to fully love herself now.”

I was fifteen when my sister Angelle came out to me and my family. At first, I honestly thought it was a weird joke because of how out of left field it seemed. But as I read the text she sent us, I realized that she was serious. My shock turned to sadness as I realized how alone she must have felt for the last twenty-one years. Because we grew up in the same community, I had an idea of all the transphobia she must have internalized growing up.

I told her that my love for her would not change and that I fully supported her transition.

After Angelle made her transition public, I was able to have conversations about it with friends and family. But when someone that everyone already loves so deeply transitions, that love doesn’t go away. I have seen nothing but love and support for my sister since she came out.


Sammy Castro McCauley (he/him) student, brother, son

Read more about Authentic Selves: Celebrating Trans and Nonbinary+ People and Their Families (Skinner House, 2023), which includes these reflections.

When my sister Ang came out to me a few years ago, I was surprised but I also wanted her to know we were there for her. Looking back, I wish I was more careful with my language, because before I knew Ang was transitioning, I would use words like gay in a way that was attempting to be humorous.

I haven’t really encountered any bullying or harsh judgment about having a trans sister. In fact, most people are very understanding about it. I admire Ang because she lights up any room she’s in and, to me, that is very admirable.

I think it’s important to recognize that everybody is their own person with their own journey, so it always helps to show more compassion toward those around you.