‘We all want to feel safe’

‘We all want to feel safe’

Lessons from an evening with the Marjory Stoneman Douglas school shooting survivors.

Lars Lonnroth
Parkland graduate Jammal Lemy speaks during a June 16 town hall meeting at DuPage UU Church in  Naperville, Illinois.

Jammal Lemy, a Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School graduate and March for Our Lives creative director, speaks during a June 16 town hall meeting at DuPage UU Church in Naperville, Illinois. (© Steve Lundy/dailyherald.com)

© dailyherald.com / Steve Lundy


It is not often that the halls of this suburban UU church are abuzz with activity on a Saturday night—but on June 16 DuPage Unitarian Universalist Church in Naperville, Illinois, was getting ready for something special.

As I stood against a wall in the foyer, I saw a swarm of volunteers moving like vigorous worker bees, but less typical was the sight of a procession of police parading through the church’s corridors. All of this activity was in preparation for a group of high-profile visitors who were at that moment en route to this location, high schoolers who had their school thrown into the national spotlight and chose to seize the opportunity to make something positive out of a horrific tragedy.

Tonight was the second stop on the national “Road to Change” bus tour, where survivors of the Marjory Stoneman Douglas shooting in Parkland, Florida, came to DuPage UU Church to hold a town hall to register people to vote and encourage young people to go to the polls for the midterm elections.

“Our goal is to make sure every person, whether they are a child or an adult, is safe wherever they are—not just at schools,” Parkland survivor Adam Alhanti told me. “You could ask any person if they would like a common American to be safe in society, and I could guarantee their answer would be yes. I think collectively we all want to feel safe where we are, so that’s our goal.”

These teens are no older than I am, but their willingness to speak out, and the articulate way in which they are doing it, has helped spark this modern movement.

When Cassady Ells, a member of DuPage’s youth group, found out that his church had been selected by the Parkland students, he was slightly overwhelmed. “I thought, ‘What did we do to deserve this? What did we do that set us apart? Why here?’” he said.

I understand the urge to ask those questions. When it comes to recognizable political figures, there are few who transcend the presence of the Parkland students within the minds of a large swath of the teenage population. As a reporter with my school newspaper, I have interviewed many influential people, but I have never felt as nervous approaching a source as I felt approaching the Parkland students. They’re a big deal.

As they entered the DuPage sanctuary, it sounded like the moment at a concert when, after a stream of opening acts, the band you’ve been waiting to see finally marches onto the stage as exultations fill the venue. The only difference was, these were teenagers, not rock stars.

So why, with a plethora of churches in the Chicagoland area, did they come to a UU church for this event?

One reason was that these are discussions that are embraced and encouraged here, said Jax West, founder of the Chicago group Friends Who March and the local organizer for the Road to Change stop. “Unitarian churches are open to these things, so when we are doing a town hall on gun reform they don’t shy away from that. It’s a good place to hold events where there may be some people who don’t agree with what we are doing.”

The Rev. Tom Capo, minister of DuPage UU, told me that they have an entire plan to prepare for events like this one. The procession of police was one of those precautions for the event. “We provide a space for a lot of different groups,” he said. “We’ve been a hub for a long time for various different groups . . . that find the UU church a neutral space where they can come and meet and feel safe.”

While the church wasn’t directly involved with planning the Parkland students’ appearance, forty-five members of the congregation volunteered that evening to make the event a success. Finding enough volunteers for an event is usually daunting, but Karen Seymour-Ells, one of the congregational organizers, said this volunteer drive was more like taking groceries off the shelf.

“This was one of the easiest volunteer asks I’ve ever had at the church,” she said. “People were calling me, instead of me having to reach out and ask them. They so believe in the mission of these youth that they really wanted to be a part of it, even if that meant they were standing outside in 97-degree heat.”

That’s probably because this is an issue a majority of UUs have strong feelings about. Cassady, Seymour-Ells’s son, said that it is clear that gun violence is antithetical to our values as UUs.

“I feel you can relate not one but multiple UU principles back to this issue,” he said. “The interconnected web of life of which we are a part—I mean, these are people’s lives being taken away. . . . I don’t see how you cannot relate to this issue as a Unitarian Universalist.” He added, “With it being such a hot topic right now, this is something that we need to latch on to. We should feel obligated to have this be an important, top-of-the-list issue.”

The Parkland students are a major reason that the issue has risen to the top of so many people’s priority lists. These teens are no older than I am, but their willingness to speak out, and the articulate way in which they are doing it, has helped spark this modern movement. While they have largely become the face of gun violence in this country, they also acknowledge that this is an issue that they’ve only caught a glimpse of.

“What you realize is, what happened in our community only affects us in this insane situation, but for communities like Chicago or Baltimore or New York, this is their reality every day,” Parkland graduate Jammal Lemy said at the event. “It was our responsibility to look at them because we had to learn that this is their life. This is their reality.”

The Road to Change event didn’t just feature the perspectives of the Parkland students. It also included voices from Saint Sabina Academy, an educational institution tied to South Side Chicago’s Saint Sabina Church. The church and its pastor are well known for being extremely outspoken on the gun violence many Chicago communities are facing, an issue that the DuPage congregation is prioritizing, too.

“One of the things we are focused on here is racial equity and restorative justice—those are some of our primary objectives as a church—and this is part of that,” Capo said. “People of color are disproportionately affected by gun violence, and if we are really working for racial equity as a church then we need to help reduce gun violence.”

This is work we all can do. History has shown that when those with privilege become dissatisfied with the government’s handling of an issue, there is a greater likelihood of change than when those from marginalized groups voice dissatisfaction. The Parkland students are largely upper class, but they also are incredibly savvy, using their privilege to effect change. Many UUs possess that same privilege to command the most political capital. Our vociferous objections to the wrongs in society are as important now as they have ever been. If there is one lesson to be learned from the Parkland students, it is that privilege alone won’t get the job done—you have to be vocal, articulate, and relentless.

Leaving the Road to Change event, I was filled with a surety that we UUs must use our voices to correct wrongs in those segments of society that people largely ignore. We can be better at looking out for and partnering with communities that don’t necessarily look like the insides of the typical UU church. Our voices and our votes are a powerful tool, a tool that we UUs use but have an obligation to use even more. This is what we have done throughout our history, and this is what we need to continue to do now: speak out for those whose own voices are so often drowned out and ignored. Lift up the experiences of those on the margins. Make sure, as Adam Alhanti said that night, that every person, whether they are a child or an adult, is safe wherever they are.